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Are You Marrying A Queen Or A Bimbo?

4 May

Reflect on the implications of marrying a queen or a bimbo. Your choice defines your happiness and relationship for years to come.

I’m happily married for 22 years now and I couldn’t have asked for a better wife, my Queen.

Often times I get calls from friends and acquaintance when they have problems with their wives / relationships for advise. Hence I’m sharing my thoughts and opinion.

First of all, it is not 1532, where your parents would have picked your spouse but we are in the 21st century, which means YOU picked your spouse. Nobody put a gun to your head and forced you to marry her, right?

Ok, since you chose who your spouse is going to be, you take the responsibility for how your relationship is going to go in the long run.

Did You Pick A Queen Or A Bimbo?

Generally speaking, there are two ways your relationship can go in the long run. Either you grow together into a strong relationship or you’ll grow apart over the years. It mainly depends on who you picked and how you “treat” your spouse.

On the one hand you can treat her like she is your Queen, which means you cherish her and treat her with respect. She is an equal to you, on the same level as you are. She has capabilities and you want her to excel in whatever she is doing.

In short, whatever you do, she can do as well. If you chose to go to university to get a degree so can she.

On the other hand, you can go for a visually stunning chick, who looks great but can’t do anything. Many women will be part of this category, especially in the USA.

They spend most of their time and money to look great so they can attract a stupid guy who will pay for everything in their life. These ladies wear fake hair, fake eye lashes, have implants and spend each day 3 to 4 hrs in front of a mirror.

They have no self confidence, which is why they need to spend so much time, money and effort to look like a doll.

They don’t know how to cook like your grandmother but they know how to order. In their mind they deserve a guy who pays for everything because they look great and have a tight coochy.

While having a spouse who looks attractive is awesome in the first few years, looks don’t matter much in the long run. After 2 years of fu$$ing your brains out it becomes boring. If you dated a lot of women you’ll notice that they are all pink inside. They need to offer more than a tight fit in the long run.

Other factors become much more important. For example, can they hold a conversation with you about topics that matter? Or do you want to talk about shoes and handbags all day?

Or who cheated on who, when and how? Do you want to talk about another episode of “Housewives of Atlanta” all the time or something more meaningful?

Do You Want To Have A Career Or A Family?

You need to have an answer to this essential question because it is the first cross-road in your life. Your answer will determine which way you are going. You can either have a career or a family but you can’t have both successfully at the same time.

My wife and I decided to have careers and we were successful in our respective careers. My wife worked as a hair & makeup artist for A-list celebrities and on Vogue photoshoots.

I used to work with professional athletes. You can read my memoirs coaching on the ATP tour and wrote and published books.

I used to work 16 to 18hrs/day 6 days a week for 15+ years. Every 3 years I may have had “vacation” for a week. Other than that I was working, either with athletes or writing my books.

I’m the author of “Advanced Concepts of Strength & Conditioning for Tennis” and “”Advanced Concepts of Strength & Conditioning”.

You can get the books on Google.

Here is the link.

If you want to have success in any career you need to invest time, money and effort. Time is of the essence here because you can either invest it into your career or into your family, seeing your kids, but you can’t do both. The day only has 24 hours, not more.

The divorce rate in my previous career as a professional coach was 90% because you are never home. That also means you have no friends and you don’t go to parties or other social events.

That’s the price you pay for a successful career and you need to decide if it’s worth it to you.

That also means your wife is at home alone, without you! If you decide to have kids then you set yourself up for divorce because when you married your wife she didn’t think she had to raise 2 kids on her own without you being in the picture. Hence divorce is coming.

A divorce is not for free either. And who do you think your kids are blaming for the divorce? Exactly, you! So you are paying for a divorce and your kids think your are the asshole, awesome!

There is nothing wrong with choosing to have a family over having a career. At the end of the day it’s your decision. You just have to live with the consequences.

Only Have Kids If You Can Afford Them

Do you know why most women go to university? It’s not to get a degree and pursue their own career! It’s to find a stupid dude, who pays for everything and let’s them live their dream lifestyle.

Where did you meet your wife?

And how do you hook a guy? Correct, by having babies, not just one but two seems to be the magic number nowadays. Having 2 kids is your wife’s life insurance for the next 20 years. Even if you get a divorce you’ll be paying for the next 20 years, minimum!

Let that fact sink in for a while.

90% of my friends and acquaintances have 2 kids. According to the recommendations of financial institutions, you’ll need $3,500/month on average as a single individual to have enough money to pay for your lifestyle in 2025.

That means:

money for renting an apartment
enough money to pay for insurances (car insurance, health insurance, etc.)
food & drinks
some money left over you can spend how you want or save

When you have 2 kids all of this is going to change and the costs sky-rock to approximately $7,000/month. When you are having 2 kids you’ll need a larger apartment or house. You will need 2 cars instead of 1, which also means you pay insurance on 2 cars plus gas and repairs.

And of course, you want to own a house that’s big enough for the 4 of you, your wife will make sure of it.

Now, YOU go and CHOOSE to have a mortgage for 20 to 30 years to pay for your house, which means you need to make mortgage payments each and every month for 20 to 30 years when you don’t even know if your marriage will last that long, do you? Most marriages won’t even last 5 years nowadays.

The cherry on top is nobody put a gun to your head to do this, you elected to do this, remember?

Now you have 2 shackles on you, your 2 kids who you are paying for for the next 20 years and your mortgage for 20 to 30 years, awesome, well done, bravo!

Think about it, do you want to have financial freedom without any shackles on you or do you lay on the shackles yourself for the next 20 to 30 years? Remember, nobody forced you to do this, you CHOSE to do it.

If you make decisions you have to live with the consequences, that’s all. Therefore, can you really afford to have 2 kids and a house plus a wife?

How To Treat Your Women Like A Queen

You treat her like your equal, not like your bimbo. That means, for example, if you can go to university to attain a degree so can she. If you want to pursue a career so can she.

If you want to pursue your dreams so can she! It’s not a one-way street where you can do what you want and she comes second! No, your wife comes first. You need to treat her like she is special to you, your Queen.

You and your Queen need to have a strong bond, inseparable, which means you need to see eye to eye. You’ll have a blind understanding for each other and you support each other in good times but especially during bad times.

When you go through tough times you’ll know who your friends really are and if your spouse is going to be there for you.

In a nutshell, the goal is to have a relationship like Frank and Claire Underwood in “House Of Cards”.

How To Treat Your Wife Like A Bimbo

You treat her like she is beneath you, not on the same level as you. You try to dictate and control her life, what she can and cannot do. Almost like she is your slave and you are her master.

You can have a career but she needs to stay home and raise the kids. You can do things that fulfill you, e.g. pursuing your career, and she has to do a job because you won’t be able to earn $7,000/month after taxes.

Do you know the difference between a career and a job? When you pursue a career the day doesn’t have enough hours, you could go on and on working.

If you have a job your shift cannot end soon enough.

You don’t really care what your wife wants. All the decisions are made for her because you know best.

You wanted to have a “family” and she is the baby making machine who raises them because you are never home. You need to make the money so all 4 of you can live, remember?

If you live in Germany you need to earn €11,000/month before taxes if you want to bring home €7,000/month. If you work 40 hrs/week you’ll need to earn €275/hr to make that happen (€11,000 / 40hrs = €275/hr).

Are you making €275/hr? I don’t think so.

Are You A Sugar Daddy?

The other option is you are sugar daddy who pays for everything. Your wife doesn’t need to work, she needs to look good. You live in a million dollar mansion or you pay $6.000/month rent for a luxury apartment.

Your wife doesn’t really do anything meaningful. After a while she is getting on your nerves because she is bored. She needs something to do with her life so she is pursuing a “business” that doesn’t make you any money but costs you more.

But you love her and give her money all the time so you can live in peace. After a few years you may realize it’s all not worth it and then what?

What happens if your revenue stream dries up over the years? Correct, your wife is gone.

On to the next idiot who pays for everything because that’s what she is used to and, in her mind, she is worth it and deserves to be taken care of. The way of thinking of a true bimbo.

They can’t do anything themselves but have expectations like they are a Queen.

Who did you marry? A Queen or a Bimbo?